From “Discipleship and Discipline” by William H. Hicks, copyright March, 2005:

“There is no such thing as “pre-marital sex”.  The term is a spiritual oxymoron, kind of like “cruel kindness”.  The discipline of delaying gratification may find its greatest test for young (and old!) when it comes to controlling our sexual natures.  In today’s social environment, so much (too much!) emphasis is put on sexual gratification, one cannot escape references thereto no matter where you turn.  It is a ‘rite of passage’ to manhood for young men and a ‘badge of acceptance’ to young women.  God, however, labels “pre-marital sex” as fornication, period.  God sees sex as a gift given to your chosen mate, bestowed AFTER you have exchanged vows before Him and your invited guests/witnesses.  Physical gratification is pleasurable, no argument.  But it is merely that without the deeper, soul-satisfying spiritual union and fulfillment that accompanies true “love”-making.  It is an expression of your commitment to and desire for the one with whom you have been blessed by Him.”